{ Psychologically Speaking }

Seeing Life Through Our Personal Perspective

Cancer survivor, hospice volunteer, husband, father, Professor Emeritus at San Francisco State University and all around “wise” man, Stan Goldberg, Ph.D. never ceases to amaze me with his uncommon common sense, sense of other and overall insight into human behavior. Dr. Goldberg’s recent post, Seeing Life Through Our Personal History: It’s a Gray world, gives clarity to why “most of us believe the world should be viewed as we see it and how otherwise, “shocked” we are when there is a “discrepancy between the right way—ours—and the ‘wrong’ way.”

The inability to see another’s view from their perspective does, indeed, lead to much discord, discontent, anger, hurt and, surely, global conflict. What a far better world this might be if we could put into practice and pass along Dr. Goldberg’s sage advice  with the hope of opening more hearts and minds to his view on “understanding rather than condemning.” “Righteous judgments and moral outrage,” he says, “move us to the past—things that have already happened. It does little to explain why something occurred or was said. And, more importantly, offers little guidance for the future.”

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Indecision Paralysis: Why Can’t I Make Easy Choices?

I am an incredibly indecisive person. I exhaust myself emotionally on a regular basis doing endless research on a service or product I need, or hammering my brain trying to decide if I want to go out with friends or relax and watch TV on a given evening when I’d enjoy myself either way. If I could take back all the hours I’ve spent combing through health store shelves reading the back of every skin care bottle, scouring the internet for alternatives to a program I want to make sure I get the best one, or otherwise agonizing over a trivial decision, I could probably go on a months long exotic vacation, which would be a much more enjoyable and productive use of my time.

So when a thread of links led me to this article from Wired, I immediately thought, “Wow, I can SO relate!”

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Constructive Discontent: Getting Positive About Negatives.

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Whether we’re challenged by people or particular situations, we might all be wise to heed the good advice of Canada-based Leadership and Communication Coach, Irene Becker, who suggests there is actually “something constructive about discontent.” And, she refers to it as just that —”Constructive Discontent.” As far as I’m concerned, it sounds like a wonderfully positive and productive alternative to being miserable, paralyzed or otherwise stymied by the myriad of circumstances that confront us on a daily basis.

We’re delighted to share Irene’s thoughts with you and hope that they will help you move forward no matter what challenges you face, daunting or otherwise, in your personal life or in business. Let us know what you think.

 

 

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Are We Losing Our Minds Minding Our Business…or is it Just Me?

Puppy passed out on his computer keyboard

I suddenly feel validated. In a thought-provoking NYT book review entitled, “When You Text Till You Drop,” Bryan Burrough synopsizes California psychologist, Larry Rosen, Ph.D.’s thoughts on how our overzealous, somewhat obsessive need to be constantly connected via devices and social media avenues may, in fact, be making some of us mentally ill — in short, driving us crazy—literally and figuratively.

In his new book, iDisorder, Rosen takes a hard look at ourselves today, as well as one into the future — how our kids might be interacting (or not, as the case may be,) and how anxious, depressed or otherwise obsessive our personal gadgets may be making us. No surprise to me. How about to you? Continue reading…

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