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Seeing Life Through Our Personal Perspective

Cancer survivor, hospice volunteer, husband, father, Professor Emeritus at San Francisco State University and all around “wise” man, Stan Goldberg, Ph.D. never ceases to amaze me with his uncommon common sense, sense of other and overall insight into human behavior. Dr. Goldberg’s recent post, Seeing Life Through Our Personal History: It’s a Gray world, gives clarity to why “most of us believe the world should be viewed as we see it and how otherwise, “shocked” we are when there is a “discrepancy between the right way—ours—and the ‘wrong’ way.”

The inability to see another’s view from their perspective does, indeed, lead to much discord, discontent, anger, hurt and, surely, global conflict. What a far better world this might be if we could put into practice and pass along Dr. Goldberg’s sage advice  with the hope of opening more hearts and minds to his view on “understanding rather than condemning.” “Righteous judgments and moral outrage,” he says, “move us to the past—things that have already happened. It does little to explain why something occurred or was said. And, more importantly, offers little guidance for the future.”

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How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Yes, I miss you

Long distance relationships have probably been a point of contention ever since the human species evolved to have feelings. Anyone who’s experienced one knows they’re no fun at all, and anyone who’s watched a romantic movie or television show knows they’re fraught with drama. I’ve both dealt with a long-term long distance relationship myself, and watched a number of friends and acquaintances go through them—or at least attempt to. I’m not a psychologist or any type of relationship expert, but based on my experience I think I’ve found the secret to dealing with long distance relationships: don’t try too hard.

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The Power of Kindness in the Age of Technology

Thanks, you made my day! Ecard from unvelope.com


In today’s mobile and hyper-connected world, a constantly increasing number of people are involved in online businesses, and even those who are not spend a great deal of time online communicating with others through a variety of channels. Over the past few years, I’ve been involved in two online businesses, dealt with online self-promotion as a creative professional, and have just generally been a 20-something in the age of social networking, so I’ve certainly encountered and communicated with my share of internet dwellers. Out of this experience has emerged a pretty powerful pet peeve, to which you may very well relate: doesn’t it seem like an extraordinary number of people online are… well, jerks?

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Do Social Networks Really Foster New Relationships?

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Carly here, and before I delve into this topic, I need to get one relevant bit of info out there: I’m going on 26. Given that, it’s likely that many of you readers will feel differently about this topic than I do. I’m hoping that Jane will post her take on this later, and that we’ll also expand this topic into the business environment down the road.

When analyzing the development of relationships of any kind, I think it’s important to strip away the vehicle of communication—whether it’s a social networking site, a friend’s party, a school, a work environment, etc.—and focus on the core quality of the communication. Ultimately, that is what determines the quality of a relationship. With that said, my simple answer to the above question is YES, social networks can be a very effective vehicle for fostering new relationships. Read on for some examples from my life.

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A Relationship Rule to Remember

Relationship rule to remember

Starting off as glorious, relationships need to be nurtured if you don’t want them to turn into gruesome. “Nothing new,” you might say. Yet, over the years, I’ve met a number of people who seem to think that a good marriage (or any other relationship, for that matter,) is just supposed to happen — by some miracle— and sans any great effort on anyone’s part. Well, that’s not happening. Continue reading…

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